Today is Garvey’s 5th birthday and it’s that thought which finally pushes the tears from their eye side waiting room rolling down the surface of my cheek, and finally,soaking into my sweatshirt. He has no idea that I’ll be back. That I wouldn’t abandon him for the world. I know he’s just a dog, but that knowledge doesn’t make leaving him any easier.
Terror is an ant that crawls beneath your skin when you have no idea what’s next. It crawls from the dermis through the subcutaneous tissue, and settles in an organ or two. Rooting around and kicking up dirt until it chooses to settle somewhere for the night. The next morning the same ant, along with its holographic brethren, wakes up and the fear begins again. Only this time it feels like there’s an ant hill throwing a kegger in your digestive system.
No matter how often anyone tells me I’ll be okay it won’t mean anything until I feel it. “The things we must learn before we do them, we learn by doing them.” I just want to be okay. I just want people to like me. I don’t want to stand in front of the mirror criticizing every centimeter of myself. I don’t want to care about what people will think, but I do.
My dog likes me. Having him would make this so much easier. On an extra scary day I could come home and lay on the floor and fall willing victim to his loving assault. I won’t have that safety net. That sucks. How can I remember to be enough of myself in the midst of all this terror and change?