An old friend
We had lunch yesterday. We arrived at the same time. I was able to see him walking into the restaurant first which was nice. It didn’t make my weird feelings go away, but I felt like I’d cheated and gotten a leg up somehow.
I walked in as he was being seated. He saw me, but didn’t recognize me at first…. He looked the exact same, just a bit older. No eyebrow ring. His hair was longer, but physically, he looked the same. They sat us at this oddly shaped table and it was like we can sit here and be “that couple” that sits next to each other on a date — which this was not, or we could be King and Queen enjoying a feast and sit at opposite ends of the table from one another. We chose somewhere in between. Close enough to talk and prop our legs up on the seat, but far enough so physical contact was minimal.
I’d prefer to not do the dissecting thing. Where I overanalyze EVERY aspect of this “meeting.” Drive myself nuts, and eventually get disappointed. I want to chock this up to a great reunion with an old friend. Which, I think is what that was. While we were on the ship I had a ridiculous crush on him. Ridiculous. We’re in an impossible situation right now… I say that as if there is even a “we” or “situation.” I’m just antsy to move on by dating other people. Any single male that I’m around is pretty much fair game at this point.
We talked about who we are now, who we were, and he remembered things about me that I’d forgotten long ago. I realized how much I missed him. I missed how comfortable I felt around him. How it was okay for me to be excited and passionate and silly. He made fun of me for little things, I was nervous at first, but things fell into place. I couldn’t ignore that old crush’s second cousin that showed up for a surprise visit. He’s cute and he reminds me of Marty… he still reminds me of Marty.
I’m at a difficult place in my life. I’ve fully moved on from a very serious, crazily unhealthy relationship. I’ve dated other guys who appeared to have potential, but did not. I’m ready for something. When I see babies I do the whole “biological clock is ticking” coo and long for one of my own. But, I’m not there yet. I’m not ready for a heavy-duty relationship. I am, however, ready to be attractive to someone again. To have someone look at me with longing and sincerity… to have someone look at me and see me. It’s been far too long, but that’s my fault. I can be over cautious.
Emotionally, I’m tender and bruised. I can’t help but feel betrayed by two people I cared about. I feel that they could’ve been more mindful of exactly what their decisions would do to me. But, because of how sinister one can be and the naïveté the other tends toward, they’re incapable of understanding exactly why, how much, and what exactly hurt me. As a result, I’m being far too mindful of what others need and how I could possibly hurt someone else. I’m overcompensating by looking too far into far too many nooks and crannies of the future. I want to live my life as carefree and happily as I’d always intended. But I don’t want to hurt anyone. I don’t think our joys are supposed to be at the expense of others. Is it possible to be in a relationship that doesn’t hurt? Where anger,jealousy, and mistrust aren’t the prevailing sentiments? I’ve only had that with my female friends. It’s an unfamiliar tendency in regards to the opposite sex, hence my over analysis of minutiae. Is it possible for someone to fall in love with me and I them and for no one to lay singed and broken?